ALM 09: What determines the quality of our lives?


“Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or on that can literally save their lives.” – Tony Robbins

1. The meaning we associate to the things in our lives.

EX: How do you respond when some one cuts you off on the freeway?

One person my yell and scream, “You Asshole!”

Another person my say to themselves,  “I wonder whats going on in their lives?”

2. Meaning = Emotions 

The first person in the same situation my feel angry, frustrated and outraged

The other person feels compassion, curiosity and gratitude everyone is okay

3. Patterns of emotions

We all know people we love to be around and on the other hand people we dread being around.

Tony Robbins teaches THE TRIAD: The three primary patterns of emotions.

The source of all emotions are driven by 3 forces.

Force 1: pattern of Physiology 

How you use your body?

Force 2: pattern of Focus

What you focus on you feel.

Force 3: a pattern of Language/ Meaning 

As soon as we put words to an experience it changes the meaning we experience.


Take your journal and write down an experience from the past that you felt hurt by and you gave it a negative association and meaning. Then ask yourself, “What else could this mean?” Decide to give it a new empowering meaning. Find a way to forgive yourself or whoever the  person was that in the past you felt they hurt you or did you wrong.

Now, take something that is in your future that you are worried about, stressed about and I want you to find a way to focus on what you want to happen instead of what you’re afraid might happen.

Once you start to train your mind to focus on whats possible, and give things empowering meanings you will begin to live a happy fulfilled life.